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‘Don’t truth me,’ said Boaz …, ‘and I won’t truth you.’
— The Sirens of Titan
Many parents try so hard to boost ‘self-esteem’ that they forget where it comes from. We feel good about ourselves when we’re effective in the world. Help your son acquire the skills and knowledge he needs to succeed ….
An inflated sense of self-worth without underlying abilities is useless, if not dangerous.
For a second year now, I was invited to present before attendees at the North American Conference of Separated and Divorced Catholics on the campus of the University of Notre Dame.
Once again, The Saline Reporter provided a preview. This article ran last month under the headline, “Divorce mediator to appear at conference,” on Page 3-C. Here’s a more extensive pull from that coverage.
Last year, Deaton offered a presentation titled, ‘How Can You Trust After Divorce‘ ….
This year …, Deaton will tackle the other side of the divorce equation: providing closure.
‘One of the first things I try to help folks get their arms around is the concept of ‘timing,’ said Deaton. ‘Sometimes we have trouble ‘letting go’ because we’re trying to let go too early.
‘Outside of that period, however, there are all sorts of natural forces that will come into play, naturally leading you to let go. That’s what I mean when I talk about ‘God and gravity.’ That’s a nice way of saying that we can be our own worst enemies when it comes to not letting go — which translated, can mean “holding on.”
‘With a death grip.
‘We play a role. We have a lot of control. My job is to show you what that is, and how to use it ….’
Earlier this year, I gave two talks a couple-hundred attendees at the North American Conference of Separated and Divorced Catholics in an auditorium at the University of Notre Dame.
The title was “How Can You Trust After Divorce?”
This offering was previewed in the May 20, 2004 issue of The Saline Reporter in an expansive feature titled, “Facing ‘Reality’ — Divorce mediator places value on elements of trust,” page 9-A. Following is a key excerpt.
The ‘Trust’ seminars … are based on a presentation first given by Divorce Reality Group audiences in Saline last April. The subject is covered through a combination of the latest academic research and heartfelt anecdotes connecting to the struggles of audience members.
Basic definitions are explored, as well as core challenges such, ‘Are you sure you want the whole truth, all the time?’ Game playing, fallout from extramarital affairs, and ‘truth serum’ are also discussed.’
Although this coverage ran sans byline, I believe it was written by Renee Collins, based on her attendance locally the April prior and a discussion that I had with her immediately after.
Love of bustle is not industry.
The king had two sons — one an optimist, the other a pessimist. The king gave the pessimist everything he desired, and he gave the optimist a room full of horse manure.
The pessimist was despondent because he no longer had anything to look forward to. The optimist was as happy as he could be. ‘With all this manure,’ he said, ‘there must be a pony in here somewhere.’
A study at Clark University in Worcester, Massachusetts, proved that when total strangers hold eye contact for an extended period of time, they start to feel affection for one another even if they haven’t spoken.
— Jennifer Benjamin, “Ways to say ‘I Love You’ Without a Word